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Death & Mourning FAQ

I would like to be cremated. Is this possible under Liberal Judaism? Do you have any rules about the burial or scattering of ashes?
Liberal Judaism allows for cremation, whereas Orthodox Judaism prohibits it.

The preponderant practice in Liberal Judaism is to let families and individuals make up their own minds whether they prefer burial or cremation, without any pressure being applied, and people choose both in roughly equal numbers.

A Jewish funeral for cremation is performed just like a Jewish funeral for burial.

Families can choose to have the ashes scattered, or keep them, and it is also possible to have them buried with a stone – and have a stone-setting ceremony, just as you would for a burial.

There are no prohibitions in Liberal Judaism as to where ashes can be scattered.

What are your views on organ donation – and can I be buried in a Liberal Jewish burial ground if I donate?
Yes. And we encourage members to sign the organ donor register – fulfilling the mitzvah of life’s preciousness over all other considerations.
I have a tattoo. Can I be buried in a Liberal Jewish burial ground?
Yes, or indeed any Jewish burial ground. It is a myth that you can’t.
I would like to donate my body for medical research. Can I be buried in a Liberal Jewish burial ground afterwards?
Yes. Liberal Judaism supports families where the deceased has chosen to donate their body for medical research
My partner is not Jewish, but we would like to be buried together. Is this possible?
Yes. If you are both members of a Liberal synagogue/community then you can be buried together in a Liberal Jewish cemetery.
Is it possible to have a Liberal Jewish funeral / burial without being a Liberal Judaism member?
Under some circumstances Liberal Judaism can bury non-members in our cemeteries, or to arrange for the cremation of a non-member.

Click here to find out more about options available for non-member Jewish funerals
I would like a woodland burial. Is this possible?
Yes. We have a woodland section in both our cemeteries.
I wish to be buried in a cemetery that is not administered by Liberal Judaism. Is this possible?
You would have to make your own arrangements, but we can organise for a Liberal rabbi to officiate. Please contact the Liberal Judaism office for more details.
A loved one has just died, what rules do I need to follow?
In Liberal Judaism, it is very much left up to the bereaved family to decide how they wish to hold the funeral and mourn afterwards.

Rabbis and congregational leaders will give guidance where it is required, and explain practices at the time, but no-one is compelled to carry out rituals which they do not want to perform.

For a number of Jews, the traditional rituals associated with mourning are a great comfort and support. There is often a familiarity when it comes to taking up the traditions practised by one’s parents and grandparents and these often bring consolation and reassurance.

For Liberal Jews, tradition has its place and importance, but its observances and rituals are not necessarily obligatory. We assume such rituals because they have meaning and purpose for us, because they are comforting and supportive, and ultimately, because they help us to come to terms with our loss.

Please contact Liberal Judaism, or your rabbi, for more details.

Why is burial so soon after death?
There is a Jewish understanding that mourning cannot truly begin until the, sometimes stressful, affairs around burial or cremation are completed. For example, traditionally mourners do not say Kaddish until the loved one has been buried or cremated. Shiva (the days of mourning) also do not begin until that time.
Is tahara (ritual cleansing of the body for burial or cremation) a requirement?
No. However, this option is available. Please speak to your rabbi.
Do Liberal Jews observe the traditional period of mourning?
The length and nature of mourning is the choice of the individual family.
I’m not Jewish and am attending a Liberal Jewish funeral - what will it be like?
A Jewish funeral is simple and brief. It contains psalms from the shared Jewish and Christian Hebrew Bible, as well as a few traditional mourning prayers for the deceased from the Jewish tradition. The prayer book will have an English translation and the service leader will let you know what pages to turn to.
I am a Jew but have never attended a Liberal Jewish funeral? What should I expect?
A Liberal Jewish funeral is very similar to any Jewish funeral. The noticeable distinctions are that men and women stand or sit together and say the prayers, including Kaddish, together. There will be readings in Hebrew and English.
I think a family member was buried in a Liberal Jewish cemetery. How could I find their grave?
An online grave search facility is available for Edgwarebury Cemetery (Edgware) and Hoop Lane Cemetery (Golders Green).

If you wish to use it, please visit www.edgwareburycemetery.org.uk/burial-search/

Searches can be made by either forename or surname and you can search in Edgwarebury, Hoop Lane or both. There is no need to enter a year of burial.

The results provide the deceased’s full name, community, plot indication, date of death and date of burial.

How can I find out more?
Liberal Judaism’s in-depth guide to all aspects of death and mourning can be read here.
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